It has been two years since I took another road less
traveled. A decision made with all the sensibilities I could think of. I tried
to ask myself whether it made sense now because by then, it was. It started with
a casual dinner which I initially refused but through the prodding of my
colleague who was my temporary shelter in Lusaka, I said yes even without
knowing whom we were going to dine with. The typical snub in me, when I was
introduced to my friend’s friends I just said hello, didn’t even bother to
shake hands with them. I had a hard-time choosing the food because that time
whatever different from chicken and chips was good enough for me. While having
dinner, the discussion started with my beloved Chipata, then analysis of the situation of Zambia,
which really caught my interest so even if I did not know them, I got so much
engaged in the conversation. This he told me later, impressed him. Afterwards, there was exchange of phone numbers
and e-mail address which to my surprise I easily gave out. The first meeting
ended.
The following night, I got invite for another dinner so that
my desire to have Chinese food would be satisfied but we ended up in a Korean
resto which was not bad at all. I was off to be back to my province the next
day but decided to move it for another day. The evening that followed, I got
invite again but this time, I refused. He made an excuse; he went to my friend’s
house. It was just a casual evening of chatting, comparing music in our iPod.
When he reached home, I got a call which I willingly acknowledged. Then early morning the next day which was my schedule to travel back to my province, I received
again a call with the usual Filipino goodbye lines in our conversation. During
the 6-hour trip, I cannot remember how many calls I got until I reached my
beloved province.
That evening, I received countless calls again. I willingly
spent time talking on phone and even endured the tiny screen of my nokia for
mobile chatting using e-buddy. This has become a routine every evening which
really surprised me because I look forward to those calls and chats. This
blossomed into something more than just casual conversations. I was hooked!
He is a guy who has the characteristics of a Filipino whom
you would fall in love with. He is caring, loving, thoughtful and plus, plus
other things. There was too much passion at the beginning, no missed calls, no
unanswered sms, no sleep without talking on phone. Slowly, I discovered what
irritates him and what triggers his anger. He has some attitude I could not
stand. Fights started, missed calls, unanswered sms and calls became lesser and
shorter. We discussed this and things were settled as always. I was always pulled back.
I went to Viet Nam, the relationship continued and the same passion
was there during the first few months, then slowly it lessened to a large extent.
There were so many broken promises, or plans which did not materialize. My life
became miserable, my health, my work was affected. I was crying almost every
night. There was even a time when I was almost hit by a motorbike because I was
crossing the street absent-mindedly. Slowly, I came to my senses. I gave up. I
gave up after learning my lessons the hard way. I slowly moved on. I managed to push for a short time.
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Then January this year, the day before I was to go back to
Viet Nam from my holidays, he called up and wanted to meet up. I agreed. I
thought I was meeting him to close whatever needs to be closed but then we
decided to continue it. Again, I was pulled back. But the situation was the same until I got this post
here. I promised myself to start a new life, new environment and new work. But
then, it never happened. Yes, it was a new work, a new living environment but
the way I am living my life is the same. We are still together. Despite all the
pains, hurt, disappointment and frustrations, I am always pulled back no matter
how hard I push. Two years since, there is no doubt that he loves me and so do I but I am
asking myself, is he worth the pain I’ve gone through? Seriously, does he really deserve me?
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